Imagine without boundaries,
Believe everything’s possible,
There are no limits to potential,
You were born fearless, born with no self-doubt or lack of confidence,
you were not born into the shackles of a category, class or group despite what some may lead you to believe.
The state will try and constrain you by telling you to find your place.
You must not pay attention to this because you must not comply or abide by anything that denies or limits your ability to progress in any field.
Find your own place, a place consistent with what you want to do, believe in society but don’t let it define you. Abide by the rules but don’t let them rule you.
The world you want to live in is fashioned by the steps you take every day,
The reality you live in is created by the lessons you learn and the mistakes that you make,
Every piece of negativity you face you must learn to overcome with a combination of objectivity, rationality, positivity and proportionality.
You must be emotionally intelligent, sensitive, considerate, strong, yet able to be reflective and weak.
In your darkest moments you’ll learn to listen to your soul, you’ll learn who the people in your life worth keeping close to you are and you’ll appreciate the value of trust.
Love. Love will attract you, feed you, imprison you, break you, make you. It will inspire you, make you grow, destroy you, it will lift you, transform you in good and bad ways, it will tint (for better or for worse) everything you see in life.
Love will teach you lessons you’ll never learn in any classroom or textbook, no matter what you think you know about it or how clued up you think you are, no matter how wise and noble you will become, your love for a woman will spin your head so fast that you’ll believe and do anything for her.
Love has the power to free you. Love absolutely, love with respect and trust, love with every bit of your heart but know that sometimes when you think you’ve found treasure, its true value can only be known by what you feel your love is worth to you. Are you a better person because of it, does the love that you give and receive make you a better man? Are you proud of the person whom you choose to represent you and your family? Do you make them proud in the same way?
How do you know your ‘one’ is ‘the one’? Sometimes it’s less about what they look, think, speak like or what and how they do it. It’s the realisation that you are willing to put that persons happiness and emotions above your own. The knowledge that your individual future is no longer important because collectively your future together holds the biggest reward.
Wealth is the accumulation of that which you hold dearest above all else.
What is the measure of wealth? It is informed by your perception of value. Money will help make life more comfortable and give you plenty of choices that can add to the quality of your own life as well as your families. But seek the right balance between assets and fluidity, then compare that against what it costs you personally. Is something worth it when it costs you more than money?
Happiness is not a mystery, it is not a lifelong journey or quest nor a riddle to be solved. Rather than ask yourself why am I not happy? Or question what you are missing – consider what happiness will look like and how you will know you’ve achieved it. Happiness doesn’t have to be found chasing a missing piece of jigsaw in a puzzle called life. In fact re-frame that completely by learning how to achieve contentment by appreciating the things that make you feel at peace.
If you were to be locked away from the world and left only with your thoughts, feelings and emotions in a darkened room for days – What would you miss the most? Who would you miss the most? What did you realise you valued above all else? Now take a moment to start enjoying it all over again for those are things that matter.
The ability to stop and listen, the confidence to apologise when you know you’re wrong, the ability to stand up for your beliefs, the tact in respecting the views and feelings of others when you are expressing yourself, the sensitivity to know when you have hurt or harmed. Be smart, look beneath someone’s smile, even if they assure you that you’ve said nothing wrong. No matter where we are or who we are, we live in a collective mind space, our actions are like dominoes, our words have a butterfly effect, never be so naive as to believe you live in isolation. Whilst you are part of a family, in a relationship or when you’re a friend or in your job even, take responsibility of the things you say and do because one day they may reverberate around the planet and come back to haunt you. The flip side of the coin being that the good things you do may plant seeds which bear fruit and feed your soul in times of famine. In morality, positive energy attracts positivity.
All of this advice will change your life for the better, but you won’t believe me, you won’t listen because you will believe you know best. That’s human nature and I can’t change that but I hope when you come to your moment of searching for more, when you realise that your body, mind and soul need more than the material and superficial things that life offers, you start to seek the lessons of those that have lived before you. I know you will achieve your personal enlightenment and enjoy your life with all the joy it has to offer.
My son, understand the person that you are by feeling comfortable in your own ski. Once you know how to be true to yourself, your journey to become a man can begin. And when you have a family and children to call your own, you will understand the sanctuary, the sanctity of house and home.